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Think It Over® Infant Simulator Program:
made me realize how time consuming and difficult it was to care
for an infant, especially when you are not feeling well. The "baby"
made me realize that I do not want children until I am financially,
physically, and mentally ready.
mother laughed at me this morning, I had bags under my eyes. (after
being up so often with the "baby")
friends that come from a bad situation at home, a lot of them
have been beat, sexually, stuff like that. And they don't get
a lot of love, and they think that by having a kid. . .it would
improve their home life or their situation. . . I think they might
change their mind if they had to take care of this "baby"
for. . .maybe more than two weeks.
you do revolves around the "baby." It looks a lot simpler
than it is. It's hard work to have children. I thought it was
all easy and stuff, but now that I've taken care of one, it's
really hard. When you see little kids you say, "OH, they're
so cute." But after taking care of them, they're not that
I know that if I would have had the opportunity to care for
one of these (infant simulators), I probably wouldn't have had
my son at age 16. If I have a daughter, I will be sure she'll
have one of these, to break the cycle of teen pregnancies which
got started in our family.
think it has deterred (my daughter) from having a baby too young
-- it was a real eye-opener for her.
"baby" is a great idea for kids. (My daughter) really
enjoys babysitting. She likes kids and tends to be very patient
with them, and when she's with them she really pays a lot of attention
to them. But when it came to full-time responsibility for taking
care of a baby for 24 hours a day, she was not ready for that.
. .I really think it shows them what's behind actually having
your own baby. A lot of getting up and staying up. It's not all
fun and games like they think, "Oh, they're so cute."
They are cute, but there's a lot of work. . . . It really shows
them what they really have to do.
. . every high school person should have to do this, at least
once. . . . I think particularly the boys ought to have to do
it. . . they get all the fun, and they don't have any of the responsibility.
. . .They might take another thought about their actions.
In 23 years of teaching I have never had a more positive response
or a keener interest in any project that I have done with the
I have implemented the Baby Think It Over Program® as a required
project in my Parenting Class, teenage pregnancy has dropped in
our school by over 50%! I wish that it was required for
all students instead of being an elective.
am a very popular speaker right now. . . it was easy to get the
community to donate approximately $1800 toward babies & equipment.
My child development classes have increased by 3 classes this
is a fun project, but it has a serious purpose. By learning the
responsibilities of parenthood today, the student may become a
better prepared and informed parent in the future.
works well - everyone wants to take 'em (the infant simulators)
home -- but nobody wants to keep 'em!
. . when I started teaching high school, over 15 years ago, I
had sometimes a senior or a junior with a child. Now I'm finding
ninth graders with six and seven month old babies already, and
that's a concern to me. I think if one student has an experience
like this, realizes the responsibility, and decides to wait to
become pregnant. . . it's worth doing in my classes.
Child Development, Parenting, and Parent Development:
learned about life, about family, about myself, about children-how
they develop-and how to make them the best they can be.
learned that children aren't always capable of what's expected
of them, and they are not necessarily trying to go against you.
Most important, I learned that having children is a big deal!
I don't think I will never consider bringing a life to this earth
until I am ready!
children is a lot of work and I want to have the time that a child
needs to grow up in a healthy environment.
interesting to know that what is done to a child at an early age
will influence their lives forever.
learned not to punish your child by hitting. I wanted to learn
how to discipline a child by not hitting them. I know what it
feels like to be hit and everytime I was hit as a child I disliked
the person who hit me. I would always ask myself 'why couldn't
they just talk to me and make me understand.' I still have love
for them but I'll never forget the fact that they hit me.
learned that using language to express your feelings teaches the
child to do the same. This is very important for good communication
between parent and child throughout life.
most important thing that I learned is that in order to be a great
parent, not a good one, that PATIENCE is essential.
used to think that taking care of a baby came from natural instinct,
but it isn't. It's hard work.
you want to have a child you have to be financially stable.
really know your child, your family, even friends, you have to
learned to be patient with smaller children and to show them support.
To love and take care and protect your child. I can't really tell
you how much this class made me a better person.
I was learning about child development I was understanding why
my parents are the way they are.
relationships with my sisters as well as my grandmother have really
improved since I now know a little more about the feelings of
kids and what parents go through.
discussed dating and making proper choices for partners. Abuse
is a problem among this group. Many had experienced it at home
and we desperately wanted to break this cycle as they formed their
own relationships. The biggest obstacle was that they did not
even realize that they had been abused.
teach a parenting class and I am convinced that every young person
needs parenting skills. It should not only be offered to pregnant
girls and those who already have children; all schools
should offer parenting classes if educators really hope to impact
positively on future generations.
find the class to be thoroughly successful and a total necessity
in our school. I deal with not only pregnant and parenting students
but students with high risk behavior. The only way to reach the
high risk group is through the parenting class.
Educating Children for Parenting®:
My best friend has a sister who is sixteen and just had a baby.
Her baby's really cute. But then Christina and her mom visited
our class. Christina's mom is old, and she told us that she loved
Christina but it was hard work to take good good care of her.
Christina's mom works really hard and her work is never done.
I am going to wait for a long time before I have a baby. I need
to care about myself, my family, and get a good education first.
I hear parents hitting their kids at night on my block. My mom
and dad don't do that but some do. I told my mom and dad about
Joel and Ty coming to my class. They really liked it. It's not
right to hurt a child. And parents need to know that they should
not play with guns, matches, knives, drugs, or leave on hot things
like irons. Kids and babies need to be safe and you need to always
learned so many things in ECP this year. I've learned that babies
are a big responsibility. Kids also go through many changes and
learn many things in the first few years of their life. I have
also learned that everyone has differences and many needs.
isn't just love. It is learning the experience of a parent. It
is learning how to deal with the discipline you don't want to
give. You have to learn how to respond to the cries.
I am a scientist and was very impressed with the analytical skills
being taught in the ECP program. It's impossible for kids to see
what their own parents do within the family. This program gives
them an objective look at what's involved in taking care of a
child. Planning the questions they would ask, the things they
wanted to observe, measuring the baby's growth, and comparing
and discussing what they learned are all fundamental parts of
the scientific process.
wanted to bring my two-year-old son in the classroom, because
many of the children in this school do not have fathers in their
homes and I want to show them how being a father is part of being
a man and that maturity includes nurturing roles. I want the boys
in this school to see that a man can bond with his child and keep
involved with his child's life, and I want to show the girls that
not all men leave their families and that they don't have to expect
this to happen to them. (Parent classroom participant)
daughter has become more protective of her own baby brother when
it comes to his safety and more caring in her play time with her
friends. . . . I think you should teach this program at all grade
levels. It is essential, especially for families who do not have
would like to see this program continue next year and expand on
it for each grade level. I wish I had classes like this on parenting
when I was young.
this program through high school to remind them how much work
raising children is.
The children have gained a better understanding of what a parent
needs to do and the many decisions that have to be made for the
baby to grow and learn. The other benefits of the ECP program
for my students have included: increased critical thinking and
problem solving skills; enhanced cooperative learning; and awareness
of the importance of nurturing, meaning that combination of physical
caretaking and prosocial behaviors, like comforting, praising,
giving, sharing, limit-setting, cooperating, an d helping. (ECP
ECP program was taught in two classrooms in my school. In those
classes, students started talking to one another instead of being
physical. These were the only two classes in which I did not have
to intervene physically in the year. This is significant. I want
to see the ECP program in all my classrooms next year. (Principal)
Educating Children for Parenting program is flexible in its design,
making it ideal for use as a thematic unit at any grade level.
Topics in health, science, social studies, language arts and mathematics
are all relevant to the curriculum. Additionally, this program
taps into the affective domain, providing the appropriate model
to prepare our children for their future roles as parents and
productive members of society. By teaching and modeling nurturing
skills, the program stresses anti-viol ence and the use of mediation
in problem-solving. (Principal)
younger students began to actively demonstrate caring behaviors
to one another. (Principal)
students became much more courteous and better able to share and
wait their turns. They also learned to respect the opinions and
answers of others. (Teacher)
feel the children have become more tolerant of individual differences.
They work and play together, cooperating and problem-solving better
than before. (Teacher)
created a buzz and excitement in our school age program. Daily
the children talked about Emily (visiting baby) as if she were
their own. The group talked more about how hard parenting is --
so many responsibilities. Emily seemed to draw out children who
seemed shy or rarely participated in planned activities. . . .
I also feel the program gave the teacher a lot of confidence and
Learning to Care: Education for Parenting:
scares us kids to death knowing that parents go through that much
responsibility. Having a baby isn't all fun or a joke, it's real
and they have to deal with it no matter what.
learned having an infant is a big responsibility for both the
parents. They always need something. You always have to watch
them so they won't hurt themselves and they love experimenting
you have a baby you must watch him or her at all times. If you
are careless something can happen. If you are watching a baby
you can't walk off and leave it him or her alone.
learned that it's hard to do things when there's a baby in your
The students get a realistic view of parenting. They see how much
time, effort, money, etc. go into it. I participate because so
many young girls have babies and are really not ready to be a
good parent. It has made me feel good about my parenting skills.
I would love to see this program in every school. I think it would
help the young adults make some important decisions.
value of this program is facing the reality of having a baby and
doing what is right. If you are on the bottom, get back on top,
get back in school and finish.
There has been an increased sensitivity to the needs of infants
and others. There has been an increased understanding of dependency
upon others for various needs. My students have been very willing
to share their thoughts and feelings.
feel the students are more aware of each other as individuals.
They appear to be more accepting of differences. Even those students
who are generally quiet or are not participants seem to enjoy
the class. My class got to observe a loving, caring mom who is
really involved with her children's development.
formerly Primary Prevention: Promoting Mental Health in the Next
I feel that this program should be taught to anyone who is
going to have a child and adults who already have children that
way they can know that children have feelings and they'll know
that whatever you say and/or do to your child will affect you
child for the rest of his or her life.
surely do think that the information that I learned will make
me a better parent.
still don't think that there is any such thing as a perfect parent
though, but what you taught me can make me a good parent.
think that I will be more prepared for rearing my child and going
through the stages of his or her growing up.
information is really helpful. I'm already a mother of a 3 month
old daughter and I now have ideas of how to raise her.
like that it teaches better ways to discipline because I was abused
and I know how it feels.
. .it helped me to know what to do to get children to do what
you want . . . in a nice way.
helped me realize what to do and what not to do to get children
to do what you want.
think twice before hitting my child. I'll think of other alternatives.
liked it very much. It taught me better ways and other options
to discipline my child other than yelling, hitting, or spanking.
like learning new ways other than spanking to get a child's attention.
(I liked learning) the parent encourages her child even if the
child did something bad.
used the information that I've learned now on my nieces.
program is very good for us because we learn how to be parents.
And we can tell our parents about it.
think every class should have a program like this because it really
helps people control themselves.
best part of the program was the discussion and the role plays.
like the activity sheets best. These give you the chance to apply
your thoughts in certain situations.
best part was that (the presenter) listened to us and understood
where we was coming from and related back to us.
liked participating in this program because they tell no put-downs.
learned how to communicate better.
really enjoyed it because we talked about realistic problems and
tried to solve them.
It had a great impact on my attitudes towards my students, even
towards my daughter! The situations were clear and appropriate
to each example. The participation in the classroom was magnificent.
Their response was great. They were waiting for this program to
be presented every week.
program is a wonderful, positive effort to reach the children
at an age (kindergarten) when a real difference can be made.
students enjoyed the program and were concerned that they needed
more training, information and guidance to have a positive effect
on the outcome of their children's life.
wish I had this training before I raised my own children. . .
. The positive discipline techniques, and also the high level
questions that I asked the students made them think.
my knowledge and enhanced my positive thoughts and actions toward
child rearing. The audio visuals were a strength of the curriculum.
was very impressed with the objective about relating the differences
between punishment and discipline. The strengths were . . .role
playing and discussion from the class activities after viewing
the vignettes and the examples that were given.
is an excellent program that helps to improve parents and children's
exposing and learning how to cope with problems in rearing children,
the next generation should be better parents.